The exact reasons why men act interested and suddenly disappear

There are indeed good men out there. They are sweet creatures, very adorable. You see them and your heart skips a beat, knees get weak, and you feel like instantly falling in love, marrying and living with them forever. However, a good man is hard to find. But somethings women do to their hubby leading to him ghosting her. Here are some of the reason why your hubby might have ghosted you;

1. Lowering your standards



I know when you meet a guy who you connect with on a deeper level, seems nice, is well established and into you, the norm is you’ll start saying yes and compromising more often. But in a bid to please him, you lose the standards you held importantly and allow the relationship to exist on his terms. In your mind, this will make him stay. While in reality its reverse. The thrill of the chase is what keeps him hooked and feeding off what you are serving in your palm. If he randomly calls asking to hang out, ask him to take a rain check.

2. You lost the race to another party

.Chances are he was sampling his time with different girls and one outshined the rest of you, laying claim to her place as the top candidate. Think of it as a client that is in the market to bring aboard a new supplier. He goes into the market in search of the top three bidders and proceeds to request for proposals from all three. Best packaged goods that fit his budget will win the tender as having proven to be the most suitable amongst the options presented. Thereby, the newly satisfied client no longer needs further assistance from first and second runners-up.

3. Emotional coward

In most instances, the man will fall in love first in the relationship. Generally, men don’t know how to deal with all these strong emotions and so it scares him away. Literally. Don’t blame him, it’s actually a natural instinct for men. You’re probably thinking ‘what?!’ Yes, it’s actually a thing. Expressing emotions doesn’t come naturally to a guy. So when faced with such a situation, he’d rather not deal with it. Will he be back? Probably. Are you to wait for him to figure his feelings out? Well, that’s up to you my dear.

4. You bruised his ego by being too strong

A beautiful woman is not about having the best-fixed makeup, colossal behind and perky bosom. This is all superficial. Beauty to a man is associated with femininity. A woman that is warm exudes grace, is soft-spoken and has charm is much more attractive. Being independent is great but don’t fight him when he’s trying to pick up the check or help carry groceries. Before calling a mechanic to check your car try asking for his help first. Let him be the man. Because he might not say it but men want to feel needed. So even while you are dating he is trying to figure out his place in your life. If he sees no vacancy then beats logic why he would stay.

5. High maintenance women

There is nothing wrong with being high maintenance. Just as long as you can afford the expensive things in life you desire. If not then that makes you a money grabber. Forcing him to buy you an expensive lifestyle is very unattractive. His ability to provide is very important to him. Might not show it, but he works really hard to earn his money. So you bleeding him dry makes him feel your intentions are not bonafide. Worse is he’s almost sure he’ll lose you if he loses the coin. Therefore he’d rather drop you and keep the dough than lose both altogether.

6. You choose unavailable men

Men will often communicate exactly what they want. If he is interested in friends with benefits set up, understand he’s not looking to settle down and start sending flowers and chocolate to your office. If he is young and still trying to figure his life out, he is probably dating as a sport for the quick and easy lay. If he is married, his priority is his family and you are simply his distraction from whatever is going on back home.   Hivisasa.com